Why Slow Movement Might Be the Thing That Actually Works

There's a moment that happens for a lot of us with chronic illness where we realize the advice we've been given doesn't fit our bodies. Push through it. Do more. Optimize harder. And somewhere along the way we start to wonder if the problem is us.

I sat down with Jeannie Di Bon, a movement therapist in London who has spent over 15 years working with people who have hypermobility, Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome, and chronic pain. Jeannie has hypermobile EDS herself, along with POTS and MCAS, and she's spent the last decade figuring out, through her own body, what actually helps. I've followed her work for years. She was one of the first people I found who was talking about pacing with real nuance, back before anyone else in this space was.

Traditional Rehab Wasn't Built for This Community

When Jeannie first started working with people with EDS and hypermobility, the go-to approach in the fitness and rehab world looked like this: bands, weights, stability drills, straight into strengthening.

But there was a problem nobody was accounting for:

  • Many people in this community had already been stressed, anxious, and gaslit by the time they reached her.

  • Hypermobile bodies tend to brace and hold tension just to feel stable, which is its own kind of exhausting.

  • Jumping straight into strength work on top of all that tends to backfire.

So instead of starting with exercise, Jeannie started with breath and relaxation. This was years before "nervous system regulation" became a phrase everyone uses. She was simply noticing that her clients, and herself, were stuck in a sympathetically-driven state, and that no amount of strength training was going to fix that until the body had a chance to settle first.


The Grief Nobody Warns You About

One part of this conversation stuck with me because I've lived it. Jeannie talked about how much comparison plays into this. Not comparison to other people necessarily, but comparison to your own past self.

I used to work full-time. I used to go to the gym five days a week. Why can't I do that now?

That question carries real grief, and grief has a way of turning into pressure. Pressure turns into pushing too hard. And pushing too hard is exactly what lands so many of us in the boom-and-bust cycle, where we do too much on a good day and pay for it for the next three.

I knew intellectually for years that going slower was the answer. Actually letting myself do it took a lot longer. Your thoughts can understand something completely and your body can still take a while to catch up.

Self-Compassion Is Not the Same Thing as Self-Care

This next part might sound too simple, but it changed how I think about the difference between the two. Jeannie shared that she didn't actually learn what self-compassion was until fairly recently. Someone asked what she did for it, and her honest answer was "I get a massage occasionally." She was told, gently, that's self-care. Not self-compassion.

Self-compassion, she explained, is being able to lie down, breathe, and think, "This is okay. I don't have to be doing something all the time." It's the opposite of perfectionism. And perfectionism runs deep in this community. At one EDS conference, Jeannie asked a room of about 100 people who identified as a perfectionist. Nearly every hand went up.

Perfectionism and self-compassion are hard to hold at the same time. If part of you is always chasing flawless, there's not a lot of room left over to be gentle with yourself.

Your Pain Is Not Just a Mechanical Problem

This is the piece I think about most. Jeannie's graduate research on pain management found that the medical system itself contributes significantly to pain-related disability in the EDS and HSD community.

Here's the issue. Most clinicians are trained to view pain through a strictly biomechanical lens: you hurt your foot, you have pain, that's the whole story. That framework falls apart quickly for anyone with a complex, multi-system condition, because it doesn't leave room for the biopsychosocial piece, the reality that pain is shaped by stress, environment, relationships, and nervous system state, not only by tissue damage.

So when someone shows up describing pain in multiple areas along with gut issues, headaches, and joint instability, a system only built to find one mechanical cause often lands on the same conclusion: this must be exaggerated, or anxious, or attention-seeking.

That exact pattern is why this podcast exists. A referral to a therapist from a doctor's office has too often meant "you're making this up," instead of a genuine acknowledgment that the mind and body are connected, and that connection deserves support instead of dismissal.

Small Steps Still Count, Even the Really Small Ones

Jeannie's message for anyone struggling right now is simple. Please don't give up. If exercise has made things worse in the past, that doesn't mean movement isn't for you. It likely means you haven't found the version that fits your specific body yet.

Even for people who are bed-bound or house-bound, there's always something. Two minutes at home, entirely on your terms, can shift things psychologically even when it looks small to everyone else. Progress doesn't need to be impressive to matter. If your version of progress feels overwhelming, try cutting it down by a quarter. You're probably still moving forward.

You're Not Meant to Do This Alone

One last thing worth naming. Community matters here too. Jeannie talked about the value of her Zebra Club community, where people can say "this happened today" and hear back, "I understand, that's happened to me too." That kind of recognition is healing on its own, separate from any exercise or protocol.

None of us are meant to manage a complex chronic condition in isolation. Whatever that support looks like for you, a movement community, a support group, or even just one person who truly gets it, you deserve to have it.

Disclaimer: Everything we discuss here is just meant to be general education and information. It's not intended as personal mental health or medical advice. If you have any questions related to your unique circumstances, please contact a licensed therapist or medical professional in your state of residence.

Destiny Davis, LPC CRC, is solely responsible for the content of this article. The views expressed herein may or may not necessarily reflect the opinions of the guest.

The content in this blog post comes directly from a real, human interview between Destiny and her guest on The Chronic Illness Therapist Podcast. This written version was formatted using AI. Listen to the full episode to hear the actual conversation.

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Jeannie Di Bon, Movement Therapist, smiling wearing a navy blue t-shirt, leaning against a patterned brick wall with her arms crossed

Jeannie Di Bon is a Movement Therapist based in London specializing in working with people with hypermobility, Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (EDS) and chronic pain for over 15 years. Originally trained in Pilates, over the past decade her research and study have gone on to encompass biomechanics, anatomy, neuroscience and pain management. She has an MSc in Pain Management. Jeannie has hypermobile Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome and rehabbed her body and mind from chronic pain. She presents for The EDS Society and other charities. Jeannie is also an educator of teachers and therapists in the field of movement therapy with the EDS Echo program at The EDS Society. In July 2019, Jeannie launched The Zebra Club – a comprehensive clinical platform for people with hypermobility, EDS and chronic pain. The Zebra Club has members all over the world and is recommended by doctors globally. Jeannie is the author of three books - her latest book was published in November 2025 - The Integral Movement Method for Hypermobility Management.

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Meet Destiny - The host of The Chronic Illness Therapist Podcast and a licensed mental health therapist in the states of Georgia and Florida. Destiny offers traditional 50-minute therapy sessions as well as therapy intensives and monthly online workshops for the chronic illness community.

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